tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8569719583017798476.post7646620095592683036..comments2024-01-22T05:25:51.828-05:00Comments on How to be a (retired) Housewife: Not-so-neighborly neighborsJoan Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11068492574250515332noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8569719583017798476.post-91858542391114011922008-06-02T19:23:00.000-04:002008-06-02T19:23:00.000-04:00How sad. What an awful situation to live with eve...How sad. What an awful situation to live with every day. <BR/><BR/>It always amazes me how some people thrive on anger, feeding it and stoking the fire. Use that energy for something positive!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for emailing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8569719583017798476.post-25855463122666532432008-05-31T10:51:00.000-04:002008-05-31T10:51:00.000-04:00We actually have our plot plan, that's why I say h...We actually have our plot plan, that's why I say he's not going to be happy when he gets the property surveyed. No, the tree doesn't hang over his property (he brought that up as well). I actually went to Neighbor and told him he could go ahead and top the tree (within reason) if it meant we could put an end to all this -- that the tree is less important than the good will between neighbors. Neighbor refused and got nasty all over again. Apparently, only time is going to heal his wound, and I'm not sure even that will be the cure. I've had to just let the entire episode go -- there's just nothing more I can do!Joan Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11068492574250515332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8569719583017798476.post-40327923292766859802008-05-31T09:29:00.000-04:002008-05-31T09:29:00.000-04:00Can you go to the courthouse and get the survey ma...Can you go to the courthouse and get the survey map from their files? I bet there are pins driven into the ground at the corners of the lots the same as here. With the map you probably can find them, and settle the boundary thing once and for all without paying a surveyer. <BR/><BR/>Do the branches of your tree extend past the property line? I believe he is allowed to cut anything that hangs over the line, but certainly can't legally do anything about where the shade falls! I'm assuming that the tree was there when he laid out his garden. He should have figured it out.<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry that this has made you upset.The Calico Quilterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01772374749065425388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8569719583017798476.post-86203244415994909322008-05-30T10:50:00.000-04:002008-05-30T10:50:00.000-04:00Oh how sad. I'm sorry. I can't believe he called t...Oh how sad. I'm sorry. I can't believe he called them without asking you-but I understand why you just want it all to work out. Maybe his wife will help him see or maybe he just got emabarassed and he'll come around.Tipperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11714281090985487356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8569719583017798476.post-29331450526758748912008-05-30T06:27:00.000-04:002008-05-30T06:27:00.000-04:00You're exactly right, Lisa. Everyone loses. I'm ho...You're exactly right, Lisa. Everyone loses. I'm hoping to talk to his wife today and see if perhaps she can mediate all this mess (or at least calm him down a bit).Joan Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11068492574250515332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8569719583017798476.post-37437275604603726572008-05-29T19:17:00.000-04:002008-05-29T19:17:00.000-04:00Neighbor disputes can be harsh and can really put ...Neighbor disputes can be harsh and can really put a damper on the enjoyment of your yard if he is out there and refusing to speak to you. I completely understand why you're upset, and it's unfortunate that it happened.<BR/><BR/>Hopefully, he would not do something such as go ahead and have them trimmed and then make you fight him in court about it. Neighbor disputes such as this are often left alone by police or HOAs (though I don't think you have an HOA) and then you are really just stuck with a civil case. I have first-hand experience with dealing with multiple neighbor disputes regarding boundary lines, dogs barking, fences, landscaping, etc. and it is hard to enforce. It's best to just hope that it never happens to you!<BR/><BR/>It is really too bad that he wouldn't listen to you or Jeff because once it gets to that level, everyone loses.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07924441703837062832noreply@blogger.com